You've had your champagne, exchanged kisses at midnight, and promised that 2012 would be the best year yet. Now, how do you make that happen?

"We need to come off the romantic notion that marriage is all about romance and passion," said Dr. Jacqueline Del Rosario.  In other words, she believes your spouse should NOT complete you.  "You should come to the marriage complete already."

Dr. Del Rosario says more important than passion is compatibility. "Suzy straight lace needs to find mister straight lace." But if you're different and already married, she says you must learn the art of negotiation.

Laura Berger and her husband Glen Tibaldeo figured that out  when they ditched their high paying corporate jobs for a year-long adventure in the jungles of Costa Rica. "We come from coorporate backgrounds so we did things with stickies and boards," said Tibaldeo. The couple thrived on a method called read, write, relate. They picked a topic each day and journaled on it for 10 minutes. Then they'd exchange notebooks. "It's reading your spouces personal journal," said Berger. The couple and the councilor agree that in 2012 families should get organized and move toward marital bliss.

For more helful hints, head to the Best Marriage Keys website and the Write Read And Relate website.